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- A woman on Reddit says she didn’t want to lend out her go-to dress, which she plans to wear soon
- Her brother’s girlfriend called her “selfish,” and the tension lingered all evening
- Now she’s second-guessing herself, but commenters insist she had every right to say no
A woman seeks advice from the Reddit community following an uncomfortable moment with her brother’s girlfriend. The 26-year-old explains that the conflict started over a dress that holds a special place in her wardrobe.
She writes, “I have this one dress I really like. It’s not expensive or fancy, but it fits me well and I just feel good in it.” For her, the dress isn’t about its price tag but about how it makes her feel when she wears it.
The poster goes on to explain that the dress has become her go-to choice for memorable outings. “I bought it a few years ago and I wear it on special occasions, like birthdays or nice dinners,” she adds. It has become part of the moments in her life she looks forward to most.
Last weekend, her brother’s girlfriend, who is 24, asked to borrow the dress for a wedding. The request caught her off guard because she already had plans to wear it to an event of her own.
She explains, “I said no because I was planning to wear it myself next month to a friend’s engagement party.” But there was also another reason behind her hesitation. “I just… don’t really like lending clothes. I’m always worried they might get stained or stretched out, and honestly I just like having my own things.”
Instead of accepting the decision, her brother’s girlfriend reacted with laughter. The woman recalls her saying that she was being selfish because “it’s just a dress” and promising that she would return it afterward.
The moment became more uncomfortable when her brother appeared to take his girlfriend’s side. “My brother also made a face like I was overreacting,” she explains. Feeling put on the spot, she tried to defend herself.
“I got embarrassed and mumbled something about it being important to me,” she admits. But the conversation didn’t end smoothly, leaving tension in the air.
According to her, the girlfriend brushed off the refusal and signaled her annoyance. “She rolled her eyes and said fine, and then things were awkward for the rest of the evening,” the poster writes.
Now she is left second-guessing her decision, wondering if she handled it poorly. “I keep thinking maybe I was selfish? It feels silly because it’s just fabric, but at the same time it’s mine and I bought it with my money,” she says.
What bothers her most is how the refusal seemed to change her brother’s behavior. She reveals, “I feel bad though because she seemed upset and my brother hasn’t talked to me much since.” This has made her question whether standing her ground was the right choice.
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The woman’s post quickly received responses from commenters who reassured her that she is not in the wrong. One person wrote, “NTA. Nobody is entitled to your things, ‘just a dress’ or not. Tell your brother to go buy her the same dress if it’s that important to her.”
Another echoed that same sentiment, siding with the poster’s reluctance to share. “NTA. She can get her own dress. I don’t lend my favorite things either, especially if I’m going to need them soon,” the reply read.
With her brother and his girlfriend still distant, she is left hoping time will ease the awkwardness created over one special dress.
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