A woman is questioning her friendship with her best friend after their nuptials, which are just months apart, have started to cause tension.
“My best friend and I are getting married four months apart and I was genuinely excited to share such a milestone with her,” the woman shared on Reddit’s r/WeddingDrama forum. “My initial thoughts were that we could help and support each other through the planning process, and have someone who understands how stressful it can be, all while still having our special days.”
“It seems she does not feel the same,” she explained.
According to the post, the woman’s friend has made hurtful comments about their nuptials being so close together, including, “I don’t want us getting married in the same year” or “this is really going to test our friendship.”
” I honestly did not want the conversation to be blown out of proportion,” she writes. “However, I am now at the point that I tiptoe around any conversations regarding my wedding because she may not take it well.”
While the Redditor has tried to ignore her friend’s comments, the tension eventually came to a head when she heard about another incident from a fellow bridesmaid.
“Jump to yesterday, I find out that she had told another close friend of mine that she is very stressed about our wedding dates being ‘so so so close,'” the user writes. “I know this isn’t the worst comment, but this one was my breaking point because I have been so supportive and excited for her.”
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“I am a member of her bridal party and my worst fear is that by bringing up my feelings, I will be removed (I could be thinking worse case scenario),” she adds.
Now, the Redditor is seeking advice from fellow brides-to-be about how she should speak to her friend about her comments.
“I am not sure how to gently approach this conversation, or if I am overreacting,” she finishes. “I am not a confrontational person but I am wanting to clear the air and solve any potential problems before they arise.”
The Reddit community was quick to point out that the two brides’ weddings aren’t all that close together in the scheme of things, and that the best friend was definitely taking things so seriously.
“4 months apart… is not close,” one comment reads. “I would steer clear of wedding talk with her. It was a nice thought that you might be able to commiserate and share in each other’s joy, but clearly that’s not the route she’s taking.”
“She also does not seem like someone who would take a ‘clear the air’ conversation well. Not sure there’s anything to gained from that,” the commenter added. “Hopefully you have plenty of other people with whom you can gush about wedding stuff.”
Others questioned why the two were friends to begin with, as the bride’s best friend doesn’t seem to be a supportive person.
“If this is going to test your relationship, then you should both be prepared for your relationship to be different after the weddings,” another comment stated.
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