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- A Reddit user says that his grieving girlfriend asked him to leave their home so that she could have some space
- The man refused and didn’t want to “spend the money to stay at a hotel for a week”
- Commenters wondered if this was a sign that the relationship was in trouble since she didn’t want him around
A man has been left reeling after his girlfriend ordered him out of their home so she could grieve in peace.
He detailed in a Reddit post that his girlfriend “just lost someone close to her and is grieving.” She asked if he was willing to leave their apartment for a week so that she could have some time, but he couldn’t honor that request.
“I told her sorry I can’t because I have no where to go, my family lives too far away, my friends don’t really have the space for me right now,” he wrote, adding “and I don’t want to spend the money to stay at a hotel for a week.”
His decision has left his girlfriend “upset,” and she has accused him of “making things worse.”
The man revealed he hasn’t received much support from his friends either, who think he should give his partner space but aren’t offering him alternative accommodations.
“They’re saying I need to give her space but also aren’t opening their homes or offering to help with a hotel,” he wrote.
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He continued that his girlfriend wasn’t as frugal as him when it came to expenses, and that is where some of the tension is coming from.
She “thinks paying for a hotel for a week is no big deal. That’s why she is so upset, I did ask her to help pay but her money is going towards funeral costs,” he wrote.
The man sought feedback on whether he was in the wrong for not leaving, and Reddit users responded overwhelmingly in support of him, questioning whether the relationship was in trouble.
“You’re her bf [boyfriend], if she can’t be sad or grieving around you why is she with you or living with you? If y’all were married would she expect you to leave every time then too,” one person wrote.
Another commentator echoed that her asking him to leave was not a good indicator of how she processed her feelings when times got hard.
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“If her coping mechanism for trauma is to push you away, this does not bode well for your relationship. Do you really want to stay with someone who runs away when things get hard ?” the commenter wrote. “When things are easy, life can be great! But the real test of a relationship is when things are hard.”
Another questioned why the girlfriend didn’t choose to leave herself.
“She can get a hotel if she wants her own space,” the user wrote.
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