NEED TO KNOW
- A woman in her 50s asks the internet for advice on whether or not she made the right choice
- She told her daughter that she couldn’t move back in with her if she brought her dog
- Now, the daughter is staying with a friend and won’t answer her parents’ calls
A woman refused to let her adult daughter move back in due to the size of her dog, but now she’s wondering if she was in the wrong.
The 50-something woman shared that her 22-year-old daughter moved out last year to live with her boyfriend.
However, they broke up last month, and the daughter asked if she could move back in for “a few months.” At first, the woman and her husband “were open to it,” until their daughter “said she was also bringing her Great Dane.”
“We have a small house, two cats, and limited patience. We also helped her raise the dog originally, and I remember the damage it did, chewing furniture, knocking things over, scaring the cats, etc,” the woman shares.
The poster and her husband told their daughter that she could move in “without the dog,” even offering to pay for a “short-term pet-friendly rental or boarding solution until she was stable.”
“She said no,” the woman writes. “She claimed we were ‘asking her to abandon her child’ and that we ‘valued furniture more than her happiness.’ ”
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The daughter is now staying with a friend and won’t answer her parents’ calls.
Other family members have also gotten involved. “Her aunt (my sister) says we’re being heartless and that ‘kids come home with baggage sometimes,'” the woman writes. “I feel for her, I really do but I also feel like we’re being manipulated.”
Most of the people in the comments agreed that her daughter is an adult and has to live with the consequences of her decisions.
“She’s an adult. She has made an adult decision: her dog is her priority,” one person replied. “She will figure out her living situation. She is perfectly capable of doing so.”
“You gave her a good idea and she decided against it, your peace and the pets are important too,” another agreed. “Bet she won’t pay for what’s broken either.”
A third person noted that the aunt should just “have [the] daughter and dog move in with her” if she wants to get involved.
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