Lauren Graham didn’t know if she was going to get married and have kids when she thought about what her life was going to look like.
The Gilmore Girls alum, 58, appeared on an episode of Call Her Daddy and spoke with host Alex Cooper about a variety of topics, including whether she’d consider herself a private person. Sharing that she feels like she is, the actress adds that she made a few “unconventional” choices while pursuing relationships in the public eye.
“There’s an age at which most, a lot of people do the same thing,” Graham says. “There’s an age at which a lot of people get married, there’s an age at which a lot of people have kids, and then there are people who just are not on that timing.”
“And so I don’t know whether to be the spokesperson for that or like apologetic about that or like, I don’t know,” adds Graham.
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She continues, saying that she “didn’t have a timeline” when it came to relationships and her own career.
“I think a little bit growing up the way I did with my mom, not that mothers give this necessarily to people, but now I’m like obsessed with timeline in a way that I think is really positive,” she explains. “Because I’m now at an age where I want to be planning what else I would like in my life.”
“I want to be really actively thinking about that. I think I was mainly in relationships where it didn’t really occur to me to say, ‘This is what I would like, this is not what I would like.’ I thought that happened just organically,” Graham says.
The Parenthood actress was in a relationship with costar Peter Krause for about 12 years.
The star goes on, saying that she didn’t realize that everything had a “system.”
“I just didn’t think that you had to say those things out loud,” Graham continues, then going on to talk about Cooper’s relationship with her husband. “And I think like you’re describing the process of the two of you, kind of what you did in that, in your relationship is you met over a shared value and you didn’t have it at first maybe.”
“Or you had a different thought about it, then you grew and changed, and I’m sure he did too. And that’s a relationship. And that’s the one thing you cannot predict when you go in, is are we gonna grow and change and have values that keep aligning? And the only way you have that is by talking about it, being open about it, being honest about it.”
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