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- A married woman shared that she told her husband she doesn’t want to homeschool his kids
- They have two teenagers, a 10-year-old girl and a 1-year-old boy
- Her husband recently told her that he wants her to homeschool his three children from a previous marriage
A woman is putting her foot down.
The married woman shared on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum that she told her husband she doesn’t want to homeschool his kids, despite his wishes.
She explained that they have four kids: two teenagers, a 10-year-old girl and a 1-year-old boy. The three oldest children are from her husband’s previous marriage.
Her husband recently told her that he wants her to homeschool the three older siblings, even though his 10-year-old “is a handful.”
The poster said that she has a “mostly good relationship” with the preteen but their first few years were “bumpy.” She wrote that the 10-year-old “still has problems following rules and instructions, so I can imagine teaching her anything would put a serious wedge between us.”
The woman added that his teenage son “doesn’t listen to me at all, he’s very disobedient.”
As for the kids’ current school situation, she wrote that they attend a “very nice private school,” while she is a stay-at-home mother who helps with her husband’s business.
“I think I would lose my mind If I had to add homeschooling to my plate. Am I wrong for telling him I need that break each day away from the kids?” the concerned mother said.
In an update to the post, she explained that her husband wants her to homeschool the children “to avoid bad influence.”
“I am 100% not qualified to teach, nor do I have the patience,” the mom wrote, adding that she once struggled to help his daughter with her math homework. “I can imagine teaching her would be a nightmare for both of us.”
The woman shared that her husband gives her an “allowance each month,” in addition to paying their bills and giving her access to his bank card and account. She added that her husband is “great,” but she is upset that he does not value her perspective on the homeschool conversation.
“I don’t want to be selfish, I would do anything for my kids and my family, but that also means putting my foot down on something that I know could be detrimental to them even if he doesn’t see it,” the poster said.
The comments section was quick to side with the mother. “I agree that homeschooling would be too much on your plate, especially since there isn’t a clear reason why homeschooling is superior in this case,” one person wrote.
Another suggested that the husband can homeschool his kids after his work day if he’s adamant. “You won’t be available during the day, so he’ll also need to organize a sitter for them from 9-3,” one wrote.
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A third told the poster that it’s “unfair for him to place the responsibility of homeschooling his kids on your already full plate.”
“It also doesn’t make sense given the challenges you had with his kids from the beginning. I guarantee if he did your job for a week, he would never dare to ask you to take on more,” they added.
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