- Woman says she attended a no-kids wedding, but brought her 8-year-old son to the post-wedding brunch the following day because it “didn’t occur” to her that it would be a problem
- The woman says that the bride then “gently” kicked her son out of the brunch
- The woman shared her experience on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet.com, and the majority of post commenters firmly sided with the bride
A woman says she brought her 8-year-old son to a wedding event even though he wasn’t invited — and was surprised and “ashamed” when he was asked to leave.
The woman detailed her experience on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the community site Mumsnet.com, which is a place where women can go to seek advice from other women about interpersonal issues. In her post, shared on Monday, April 14, the woman explained that that she has been living with her current partner for over a year, and she was invited to his sister’s wedding.
She said her partner asked his sister if she could bring her son — who both the bride and groom have met — but he was told the wedding would be an adult-only event. The original poster (OP) said she then asked her partner’s sister “directly” if she could bring her son to the evening portion of the wedding, and was told that “no extra guests” were invited to that part.
The OP said that her son ended up having “a sleepover with a friend” the night of the wedding, but he needed to be picked up by 9 a.m. as the friend’s family was heading out for the day at that time.
The woman also said that she and her partner had only taken one car to the hotel where the wedding took place, so she picked her son up and brought him back to the hotel before the scheduled post-wedding brunch.
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She explained it “didn’t occur” to her that bringing her son to the brunch would be a problem, noting in a later comment that “other children” like “godchildren and cousins” were invited. Also, she “didn’t see this as part of the wedding but post-wedding where it did’t matter.”
Because of this, the OP said that she brought her son to the area of the hotel where the brunch was scheduled, but discovered that it was being held in a private room and only her name was on the list — so the hotel staff would not let them in.
She went on to say that she eventually was able to get into the area where the food was being served — but her partner’s sister was not having it.
“His sister came over to my son and essentially asked him to leave, sort of gently by asking him to go out on [the] lawn with my partner. Partner left with us and we had breakfast in the [public] bit.”
“I actually started to cry over breakfast, then my son did,” the OP recalled, adding that she was “ashamed of myself for this.”
“Did I make too many assumptions?” she asked at the end of her post.
The story left commenters divided over whether or not the OP was in the wrong, with some people saying they understood where she was coming from in this scenario.
“I don’t think I would have brought my child to it but I can understand why you did – it’s s— you put [your son] in the position where he cried but it’s weird the bride cared enough about brunch the day after her wedding to make an 8 year old not attend,” one person said.
Others, however, were firmly on the side of the bride and shared that they found the OP’s behavior appalling.
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“You were told countless times it’s a child free wedding. I’d be livid if I was your SIL and you made a scene at my wedding like that,” someone said.
“The brunch was part of the wedding and you needed to check first,” added someone else.
Another user wrote: “How rude of you to show up with your son when [you were] clearly told he was not invited. Why didn’t you just grab something to eat for your son separately from the guests? By going there with your son you made everyone uncomfortable and most of all your son. A no is a no.”
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