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- A woman on Reddit writes that she hopes to never see her in-laws again after they’ve continued to disregard her needs
- In the post, she writes that her mother-in-law has gone so far as to ignore her deadly peanut allergy
- The mother-in-law has served dishes with peanuts in them, even when the woman was pregnant, she writes
A woman says she would be okay with never seeing her in-laws again after they’ve continued to disregard her needs — even going so far as to ignore her deadly peanut allergy.
In a post shared to Reddit, she writes that she and her 24-year-old fiancé have been dealing with his in-laws for more than a year — but since they recently welcomed a baby boy, the situation is now spiraling out of control.
“When me and my fiancé started dating, I was terribly disrespected by his parents but stuck by my fiancé trying to figure things out. I have a deadly peanut allergy and his parents did not care,” she writes. “They would cook food and tell me after setting the food in front of me that there were peanuts in it. This happened while I was about 5 months pregnant and [that] was when I told my fiancé I was not going around them anymore but he could do what he wants.”
She adds that the disrespect continued at her baby shower, when his mom “threw such a fit” about not serving peanuts that she wound up cancelling the event.
“After that I was such a wreck because of how bad I felt for my fiancé and unborn baby,” she adds. “I wanted things to be figured out and I didn’t want my fiancé to deal with such a terrible situation.”
Later, the in-laws made an issue out of seeing the newborn baby — refusing to see the baby in the woman’s family home after she asked for an apology for the earlier incidents.
After refusing to apologize or visit the newborn baby, the in-laws eventually cut the couple off, even blocking them on social media.
“I told my fiancé I didn’t want our baby around them alone because of how much they disregard literally anything that they feel like with other people,” she writes. “He agreed with me thankfully. I just know things will be worse before they get better. I feel like it’s making my postpartum worse.”
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Others on Reddit are offering their takes on the situation, with many arguing that the situation is fairly common.
“That’s textbook toxic in-laws 101,” writes one commenter. “You and your fiancé drawing the line is the only sane move here. No apology means no access, simple as that. They’re choosing to be nuisances, not family. Protect your mental health and your kid, because these people sound like a liability, not an asset. Postpartum’s tough enough without that circus. Stay firm.”
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