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- A woman has been enjoying a friends-with-benefits arrangement with a man who is the father of one of her daughter’s friends
- Writing on Mumsnet, she said her daughter has questions after almost catching them in the act when she unexpectedly returned home
- “I don’t want to explain our relationship to her because it’s not really her business,” the mom said of her daughter
A mom believes her daughter might’ve just ruined her love life.
The mother explained in a post on the UK-based site Mumsnet that she had just been intimate with a man with whom she has a friends-with-benefits arrangement, when her 15-year-old daughter unexpectedly arrived home.
She said her daughter only knows the man, Andy, “vaguely as he’s the dad of a school friend of hers.”
“She didn’t catch us at it, thank God. But we were both upstairs (we had just had sex, and had got dressed again),” the mom said. “I was all easy breezy about it saying, ‘Oh, Andy is here! We weren’t expecting you home!’ But I was embarrassed and massively thankful she hadn’t been ten minutes earlier!”
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But this close encounter was too close for comfort, and now her daughter is asking questions.
“…He left and she was asking why he was here, are we seeing each other etc.,” the mom said. “She doesn’t know that we’ve had this arrangement for a couple of years now, completely physical, friendly on the rare occasions we see each other otherwise but with no intention of becoming a proper couple.”
The mother doesn’t feel she should have to explain herself to her daughter or that she’d even understand.
“I don’t want to explain our relationship to her because it’s not really her business and it’s not the kind of concept I’d want her thinking of (especially not in the context of me!),” she said.
The mom is hoping it “all blows over” but responses to the post told her that she needs to give her daughter more credit.
“I can almost guarantee that at 15 your daughter will be aware of the concept of FWB,” a commenter wrote. “I wouldn’t say anything unless she asks but I also wouldn’t go to much out of the way to deny it?”
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While some encouraged the woman and her special friend to get their stories straight and “stick to it, and deny deny deny anything else,” others recommend she be honest with her daughter — even if it did cause some embarrassment.
“Have an adult conversation and ask her to keep it to herself. To be honest it is hard to say because I don’t know your daughter, you kind of need to gauge her maturity level,” a commentator said. “She will be a bit mortified because no one wants to know that their parents have sex at all, let alone a friend with benefits.”
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