- A woman confessed that her boyfriend’s awful cooking is a “turn-off.”
- The Mumsnet user also noted that she is “a very competent cook and it’s definitely a love language of mine.”
- Commenters on her post encouraged her to not give up on him yet because of his other redeeming qualities that she listed.
A man’s cooking is leaving a bad taste in his girlfriend’s mouth.
The 30-year-old woman — who is tasting defeat when it comes to the meals her boyfriend makes — chronicled the good and the bad of their relationship in a revealing post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet.
“I am really enjoying a year-long relationship,” the woman prefaced her complaint, listing the traits she likes about her 30-year-old boyfriend. “We get on great, he’s attractive, kind and relatively successful.”
“But he cannot cook in the slightest. It’s actually such a turn off,” she added.
To drive home her critique, she described some of his home-cooking.
“For dinner he will make ramen or pasta with ketchup 🤢,” she wrote, using the emoji associated with disgust. “Not even a jar of tomato sauce with a grating of parmesan. He boils eggs as he can’t even scramble them.”
The girlfriend then explained how cooking is a “love language” for her.
“We’ve been talking about kids/marriage,” she noted. “I would be hugely resentful if I had to cook every meal. I am a very competent cook and it’s definitely a love language of mine. Sitting on the sofa with a glass of wine whilst someone cooks you a delicious meal is my idea of heaven.”
Although she believes “he’s pretty great in every other way,” she emphasized how she doesn’t “want to teach anyone basic life skills” and that she doesn’t “see him taking the initiative” to improve his abilities.
Wondering about her future with him, the worried woman asked Mumsnet users, “Is it a no go? Or just a compromise I have to make?”
Many readers offered similar advice about sending him to cooking courses.
“Cooking lessons for his birthday? You don’t need to teach him yourself but it would give you an indication of how willing he is to learn? Probably best to also give him a heads up it may be a dealbreaker,” one person wrote.
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The woman replied to readers, detailing what she had already tried.
“I send him recipes that I see that are for non-cooks/beginners. But nothing materializes,” she explained. “He keeps saying he wants to learn but he’s been saying that since the day I met him.”
Another commenter encouraged her not to give up on her boyfriend just yet because of his other redeeming qualities, responding, “This isn’t a deal breaker imo [in my opinion]. He can learn to cook. As long as he’s right in other ways, there’s always restaurants. Don’t chuck him away.”
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