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- One woman says her mother-in-law is so concerned about her husband’s diabetes that she drops by unannounced in the middle of the night
- In a Reddit post, the woman writes that his mom even “gets alerts on her phone about his blood sugar”
- And while the couple has told her not to drop by late at night, she keeps doing it
A woman says her mother-in-law is continually making surprise visits in the middle of the night due to concerns about her husband, who is a type 1 diabetic.
In a post shared to Reddit, she writes that she and her husband have been married for two years.
“He has type 1 diabetes and was diagnosed at 5. He was so sick before a diagnosis and according to his mom, she thought he was going to die,” she writes. “She gets alerts on her phone about his blood sugar… I do not. The only reason he lets her still access them is because she pitches a fit if he removes her and he doesn’t want to deal with it.”
Her mother-in-law is so concerned, in fact, that she lives next door and, the woman writes, “because of past situations[,] she is not allowed to come to our house in the middle of the night but that has not stopped her whatsoever.”
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“I have told her that I can hear his phone alerts and that if his blood sugar gets too low that I will obviously not let him slip into a coma in his sleep. But that does not deter her,” she writes. “She calls constantly in the middle of the night. If he doesn’t answer then she blows my phone up.”
She continues: “My husband always puts his phone on silent so I always end up being the one woken up and trying to calm her down. Because of that[,] I started doing the same thing. Well when we didn’t answer last night she just came on over again.”
The woman writes that she woke up and answered the door to find her mother-in-law “just standing there like, ‘where’s my son?’ ”
“This makes us both so livid. But he does nothing about it,” she writes. “One time when she was out of town and we didn’t answer… she called her friend and had her husband come over whom I’ve never met and don’t know. He knocked on the door in the middle of the night because she[,] and I quote[,] was ‘worried he had died.’ ”
She continues: “Her actions have been quite a strain on our marriage. My husband came to counseling one time but said about two words and didn’t come back. I did my own therapy after that which did help me detach from the situation and she did back off for a while but things are starting to escalate again.”
Now, the woman writes, she doesn’t know what to do.
From the post: She deliberately makes his life hell until he gives in. It’s SO freaking unattractive to me when I see him in this light. It’s like being married to a child with zero spine and zero identity.”
Other Reddit users are urging the woman not to interact with her mother-in-law, with one commenter writing, “Why are you running interference for him by answering the door? Stop responding in any way.”
Adds another: “He’s married to you on paper but he’s in a relationship with his mom.”
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