A man on Reddit says he is “just refusing to cook for” his wife after she has spent months complaining about the meals he makes. Now, commenters are urging the man to break things off, saying her behavior signifies a deeper problem.
In an anonymous post, the man writes that he decided to stop cooking for his wife Jennifer after she “literally retched at my cooking, despite taking the tiniest bite imaginable.”
“After that, I refused to cook for her, which made her very angry. It was this bizarre disconnect between her thinking my food was trash not fit for a compost bin, but her demanding that I continue making it for her anyway,” he adds.
In the month since, he writes that his wife has continued to criticize him, but for other things, like how he walks, how he designed the home office, or how he does the laundry.
“You see, I never really noticed how critical she is towards me on virtually everything I do. She’s just more forward about my cooking,” he writes.
But when he brought up how her behavior made him feel, she denied it.
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“I tried to have a conversation with her, and naturally she denied doing anything of the sort, denied ever being rude to me, and even denied retching at my food. She actually tried to gaslight me here. She kept asking me questions like ‘When did I do that? Tell me the date.’ Then she called me a hypocrite for being critical of her, hijacked the conversation, and eventually stonewalled me,” he adds.
Now, the man says the behavior has made him realize it might be time to end the relationship, as he is constantly “anxious about what she’s going to say to me.”
Reddit users are lending their support, with many agreeing that the man should look into hiring a divorce attorney – and, writes one, a therapist.
“You’re going to need emotional support,” writes one commenter. “You may not realize this, but in a very real way, you’re living in an abuse situation. Emotional abuse is very real and can be just as damaging as physical abuse in some cases.”
Adds another: “I’m sorry to hear how you have been treated but no one deserves to live like this. You should be with someone who loves you and lifts you up not tears you down and gets enjoyment out of it.”
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