Man Cancels Honeymoon Because His Wife Can’t Afford to Help Pay for It

A man refuses to have a honeymoon unless his wife is ready to chip in.

The man, who tied the knot in March, asked Reddit users in a post on the platform’s “Am I the A——” forum if he was in the wrong for putting his Bali honeymoon on hold because he doesn’t want to pay alone.

The man, 28, told his wife of six months, also 28, that “no money = no honeymoon.”

For context, the man explained that although he and his wife “earn roughly the same” salary, they don’t have the same amount of disposable money at hand for their honeymoon. This is because after the couple covers their house bills and investments equally, their remaining funds are for “individual use and control.”

While the man wrote that he chooses to save his money, his claimed his wife “barely saves anything” and instead purchases “unnecessary” products that catch her eye online.

“I end up saving around $1500 dollars above,” the man wrote.

Because the couple have been married for half a year now, they’re “getting impatient” to go on their honeymoon to Bali.

Recently, the man found “a decent deal” and suggested that they book their tickets “right away.”

The wife agreed, but asked him to handle all of the expenses.

“She made a smiley face and asked me to book for both of us, saying she’d pay me back later,” the man said.

In response, the man “declined the offer and told her to wait” because he believes that important things like “marriage, honeymoon, travel, kids planning should only be done when you’re financially ready.”

This honeymoon halt frustrated the wife, who then started a fight with her husband.

“She said to not ruin the plan we fixed and don’t be ‘greedy,’ as memories matter more than money,” he remembered. “It quickly turned into a quarrel, which ended up with her saying stereotypical things like, ‘It’s a shame for husband to not pay for the honeymoon,’ ‘Men have been doing it for ages,’ blah blah blah. It really p—— me off, currently we’re not talking to each other.”

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Reddit users commented that the newlyweds were both in the wrong and that they should have discussed their finances before getting married because money problems is one of the leading causes of marital conflict and divorce.

“ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) for marrying each other without having a meeting of the minds about finances. You hit your first ‘major purchase’ and are arguing already,” one person wrote before suggesting, “You need to sit with a financial planner and set some goals, and agree on how you’ll get there…together.”

Another Redditor added, “Financial incompatibility is a major reason for divorce. Forget the honeymoon. Get into counseling, couples and financial, and plan for a really nice vacation when you get past this.”