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- A woman is giving up on making plans with two of her friends after their previous attempts were cancelled last minute
- In a post on Mumsnet, she woman explained that she had already purchased wine and food, and her husband arranged to give them space
- “[Am I being unreasonable] to not rearrange again? Is that petty?” the woman questioned
A woman is on the verge of giving up on seeing her friends after their previous plans were canceled on more than one occasion.
In a post shared on the U.K.-based parenting forum Mumsnet, the woman explained that she and two friends have been trying to plan a “wine and food night” together for weeks, but they’ve been forced to reschedule every single time so far.
“We all have young children but managed to book in a date,” the woman explained, adding that they decided the best place to host their small gathering was at her house.
According to the woman, their group’s plans were all set, her toddler would be in bed by 6:30 p.m. and her partner planned to meet a friend. However, she then received a text from her friend asking to reschedule.
“On the day, friend messages around 12ish to ask if we can rearrange as she’s not well. Fine. Sat in with [takeout] for one,” the woman said. “The next day, however, she mentioned how her family had gone for a late lunch with other friends (on the day she canceled).”
The Mumsnet user thought the cancellation was “a bit odd,” but the trio locked in a new date to hang out regardless.
As the next hangout date approached, the woman cleaned up her house again, purchased plenty of food and wine and her partner arranged to go out once more — before the friend suddenly canceled again, saying that she had accidentally double-booked.
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“Around 12 p.m., we get a message to say she has double booked, her partner forgot to mention his friend is staying over and would now be rude to head out for the evening,” she recalled, adding that the friend immediately asked to rearrange their plans again.
“She then messages to say they have tickets to an event now in the afternoon and excited to head back for food, games and drinks with her [partner’s] friend for the evening and worried about [getting a] hangover,” the woman continued of her friend. “Me and other friend aren’t as close, so it doesn’t really work for us two to carry on to be honest, and she didn’t seem keen in the group message.”
The woman shared that she felt she had been “ditched” two nights in a row, especially considering her partner had gone out both nights as well.
“I turned down other plans for today that came up a while ago!” she said, before turning a question over to the online community to answer.
“[Am I being unreasonable] to not rearrange again?” she finished. “Is that petty?”
Very quickly, the large Mumsnet community decided the original poster was entirely in the right to not want to reschedule, as she had changed her own family’s plans multiple times to try and accommodate this friend.
“That would p— me right off,” one commenter said. “She wants it, but you are having to host and clean your house for it to happen! If she suggests it again, say, ‘OK — we’ll come to you, as you’re organizing it.'”
“I can’t bloody stand these people who consider every plan as tentative until the day of,” another reply stated. “I’d tell her she’s welcome to plan and host the next one, and you look forward to attending. And if you get a better offer in the meantime, ditch her with a clear conscience!”
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