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- A woman is annoyed that her sister-in-law keeps posting about her late father, 10 years after his death
- In a post on Mumsnet, the woman said it “escalates” on holidays — including Father’s Day, Christmas and Easter
- “It drives me mad. I’ve gone so far as to silence her,” the woman said
A woman is taking issue with her sister-in-law over social media posts she makes about her late father — who died a decade ago.
In a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman said her in-law’s dad “died 10 years ago, and yet, it’s almost daily, but definitely weekly, she’s posting her grief on Facebook.”
The woman further detailed that her sister-in-law will write about “[how] much she’s missing him, how grief is so silent and misunderstood,” and it “escalates” on holidays — including Father’s Day, Christmas and Easter — as well as “the day he died [and] the day they found out he was ill,” plus “her kids birthdays [and] her birthday.”
“I used to get on with her well, but she’s always driven me mad by text and socials,” the woman continued. “At what point is this just attention seeking? It drives me mad. I’ve gone so far as to silence her because I can’t bear the ‘hope you’re okay, hun,’ stuff.”
The Mumsnet user added that her sister-in-law’s “behavior has absolutely trashed my opinion of her,” and it was exacerbated when she claimed her in-law “even got in competition with a relative of hers raising money for charity, because she had to be the one seen to be doing it and wouldn’t collaborate.”
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In the comments section of the post, the woman was met with support from others, many of whom suggested that her sister-in-law needs professional aid to help her cope with the loss.
“It sounds like she needs some counselling to help her manage her grief,” one Mumsnet user wrote, as another said, “This sounds like an abnormal grief reaction. She really needs therapy, if she has not had this already.”
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Others, meanwhile, couldn’t help but feel that the woman’s sister-in-law was taking things a step too far — and possibly continuing to post about her grief solely to get the reactions she has become accustomed to.
“There’s a huge difference between missing someone on special occasions or memorable dates and actually posting about it … No need,” wrote a commenter.
Said one more: “It may be cruel of me, but I have no tolerance at all for performative or over-sentimental public grief.”
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